From the book,
"Healing Your Grieving Soul,
100 Spiritual Practices For Mourners"
by Alan D. Wolfelt, PH.D.

7.
Be Patient

* I'm sure you've realized by now that healing in grief does not usually happen quickly. And because your grief is never truly "over," you are on a life long journey.

* In our hurry-up North American culture, patience can be especially hard to come by. We have all been conditioned to believe that if we want something, we should be able to get it instantly.

*Yet your grief will not heed anyone's timetable- even your own. Be patient with yourself. Be patient with those around you. You are doing the best you can, as are they.

*Practicing patience means relinquishing control. Just as you cannot truly control your life, you cannot control your grief. Yes, you can set your intention to embrace your grief and take steps to mourn well, and these practices will certainly serve you well on your journey, but you cannot control the particulars of what life will continue to lay out before you.